Yesterday I was inspired by a very dear friend in relation to this post. I want to explore how we can be true friends to ourselves. As we care for us, then we are far better equipped to reach out and give to others.
You may wish to look at the two previous blog posts which link to this.
So what are the ways we can do this?
- Take time for fun. The work/play balance is ultra important. Read a book, write a blog, go see a film, walk in nature. And sometimes do this alone. Spending time getting to know ourselves is extremely important.
- Spend time with friends. This connectivity will help take us out of ourselves. Again; go for a walk, chat and very importantly laugh together. And share your concerns with those you love. And for those of you who drive a lot, finding a “conversational buddy” may be very helpful. One can have a lovely long conversation using hands free technology. I think this is especially helpful on long journeys, as it prevents fatigue.
- Eat healthy and nutritious food. There are numerous blogs on healthy eating and I think our diet is ultra important. Drinking enough fluid is also very important.
- Sleep pattern. This is vital to our mental wellbeing. Ideally, go to bed at regular times and before midnight. And if you can’t get to sleep for twenty minutes, then get up and read a book, or do something peaceful, but not looking at a screen.
- Consider emotional support. If you are struggling emotionally, then consider getting some professional help, such as a therapist. We can so easily become stuck and may not be able to see the wood for the trees. Free therapy is available via the GP in the UK, or if you can afford it, then a qualified counsellor/therapist is a wonderful thing.
- Journaling is a wonderful way to get your thoughts down. Writing can help us see just how we feel about a situation. Just sitting and thinking is such a lovely thing-I love to have a good think. And we can look back on memories and see how things have changed over time. Writing a daily journal can be very helpful indeed, or even a diary.
- Writing goals is especially helpful in that it gives guidance around where we are headed. I think this is particularly true oi written goals. That way we know our destination.
- Setting boundaries is a very helpful way of managing life and well-being. Personal boundaries around how much we are prepared to offer in our relationships with friends and family. Professional boundaries too-I try not to work way into the evening because I am not productive. But I start my day early and ensure that I get enough sleep.
- Use of social media. I have really come away from this because I don’t feel it is particularly productive. Maybe spend some time thinking if your connection to your phone is healthy and if some adjustments need to be made. I also think when we are with friends and having a conversation, it is a good idea not to be glued to our phone.
- Love yourself. I have put this last but really it is the top priority. We all have a relationship with ourselves. Pamper yourself and if your inner voice is negative or destructive, then I would encourage you to really examine this. Being kind and loving towards ourselves is, I would argue, the bedrock of all our relationships with others.
These are just a few thoughts. Please add any ideas that come to mind. And as always, I welcome any comments ,even if you don’t agree.
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Happy Thursday everybody -Hope X